It was a Sunday morning last November when I was on my way to a church in Duluth, Minnesota.
The place was full of people, and I had just been invited to give a talk.
The idea of being on a Sunday at church was never going to happen, and it had to be something different.
So I got out my phone and started searching for records.
There was a lot of chatter on social media about me being a Mormon.
I figured I’d do my research.
The first thing I checked was my Minnesota marriage license.
I was told I was a married woman.
And the next thing I knew, I was married to a man.
But I wasn’t quite ready to make the move.
I didn’t want to live in a house with a single man, so I needed to get my husband’s permission first.
I had to prove that I could take care of myself, and my husband wasn’t exactly thrilled about this, either.
I also had to convince him I was willing to get married and move in with him.
The process, it turned out, was actually pretty straightforward.
It took some time, and after that, I had a good handle on what my options were.
It was easy enough to find a marriage record if you had a valid Minnesota marriage certificate.
But if you didn’t, you were stuck with a list of options that could be either boring or confusing.
Here’s how I did it.